Feelings & Reflective Listening

I just finished reading the STEP (Systematic Training for Effective Parenting) Parent's Handbook. Great book! I will list a link for it on this site in case anyone is interested.
There are many great skills outlined in this book. I will share a bit on Reflective Listening.

It's important to listen for feelings so your kids feel understood & can get your help with thinking about what they are feeling or thinking through their problems. Reflective listening, or listening for feelings, is actually a skill that can be learned. Here's how to do it:
1. Listen. Pay full attention to your child.
2. Hear the feeling Think of a word that describes the feeling. Also ask yourself: Why is my child feeling this way?
3. Use reflective listening. Think of yourself as a mirror that reflects your child's feelings and the REASON berhind the feeling. Use the format: You feel ____________ because _________.

One example (from my son's life): "You feel angry because Matthew took the toy you wanted to play with." When you use reflective listening often, it will feel more natural and you will be able to use your own words. But using this format is a great way to get started!