Teaching the difficult to teach

This post is not really directed towards your own children, but rather if you are in a position where you have the opportunity to work with difficult children. (So for all you teachers out there...)

Again, this thought comes from the book, Becoming Attached.

"...it may be hard for the insecurely attached youngster to find such an alternate attachment figure because the strategies that he has adopted for getting along in the world tend to alienate him from the very people who might otherwise be able to help. The behavior of the insecurely attached child...often tries the patience of peers and adults alike. it elicts reactions that repeatedly reconfirm the child's distorted view of the world..."

"But if adults are sensitive to the anxious child's concerns, they can break through."

I love this last little part. I think this is the key for anyone, including working with your own child...being sensitive to the child's needs. A warm and responsive parent is the most important thing that a child needs!